Many years later. I read my notes and remember my love.
“I haven’t had such a feeling for a long time. As soon as I open my eyes, all my thoughts are about her. And I think throughout the day, no matter what I do. I mentally repeat our last meeting: what they said, how she looked, what she answered. And the most amazing thing is I know for sure: it is at these moments that, no matter what she does, she also thinks about me. This invisible communication of ours lives between us, regardless of the distance. for me it’s a fact: I can’t kiss her, even after I got to know her - I still want to hug her again, hold her close, look into her. beautiful eyes and kiss again. We haven’t parted yet after a short meeting, but I’m already looking forward to the next date.
And now it comes. She enters my lonely apartment. This is the most beautiful moment - we are alone here. We do not hide our feelings, we go into each other’s arms, “inhale” each other, we kiss at first only restrainedly, as if we had lost the habit of our last meeting. Time is short, as always, but we are in no hurry. We want to live it in such a way that the wonderful feeling of anticipation of the closeness of a loved one does not flash quickly. What a joy it is to be loved and to love yourself. And then I thought: “For how long? How will fate decide there? I want it forever.”
The next day we met again and she continued my thoughts:
“Even if this ends soon and all this doesn’t last long, it’s still wonderful...
I thought that this only happens in movies and books, but it turns out...”
After our meetings, I inhale the smell left by her. My hands hold him. I close my eyes so that my favorite image is present in my mind, I bring my palms to my face and inhale the familiar smell of my woman.
I understood that it was doubly difficult for her. Jealous husband I already guessed everything. He had no intention of leaving her, although he knew for sure that she did not love him. It seems to me that, first of all, he was thinking not about his child, but about himself.
I was tormented by the question: how to help her? Neither she nor I can stop this whirlpool of feelings. I wanted to see her, talk to her, touch her, listen to her talk, but not about her husband. I dreamed of being next to her, looking into her eyes, accepting her caresses, her love. And still can’t get enough of it.
Of course, we are already tired of our love, because it is like beautiful flower, who grew up on the edge of an abyss in spite of all the troubles and troubles.
The meeting with my husband took place. It was simply inevitable, but it did not decide anything, despite the harshness of this meeting. I was increasingly depressed by the thought that I was destroying my family. I asked the Lord to give me the strength to refuse further meetings. And then the day came when I abandoned my beloved." The feeling that I was committing a sin depressed me because they had a child of about six years old.
The Lord sent me, instead of a married woman, a young girl who gave birth to two wonderful children, whom I love deeply. But it turns out that I was not destined to experience new love.
And now, many years later, I want to tell that married woman: “Forgive me for doing this. In all these years, no one has ever loved me like you.” Maybe this is too late a “sorry”, but “better late than never.”
July 2010
P.S.
More years have passed and now I want to add my conclusion on everything described above.
Yes, I’m sorry that I fell in love with you, but you still can’t invade the family with your love, because it’s personal selfishness. At this moment, we must remember that the child will lose one of his parents. He, the child, will then miss either his father or his mother. And you cannot replace one of the parents. And therefore, loving aunts and uncles, don’t be selfish, look around: there are so many beautiful, decent and lonely people around, among whom you can find your love without deceiving your spouse or hurting your children!
"Ah, what a woman! What a woman.. I would like one like that”... It is no coincidence that the title was chosen as a line from the famous song of the group “Freestyle”. These words reflect the essence of the pressing problem. What to do and what to do if you feel love for a married woman? We will try to give advice and find a way out of this difficult situation.
If even in the last century marriage or engagement were considered irresistible ties connecting two people, then in modern society the concept of “couple” carries little weight with seriousness of meaning. Previously, loyalty and devotion were considered the norm of life. Now they are so relative that they hardly have a place to exist. Almost any girl or guy can be taken away. Moreover, they are taken away both from unfamiliar opponents and from their friends and even relatives. Moral boundaries are erasing their appearance. But what to do if you are completely at peace with your conscience, but your heart insists on its own? What to do if you like someone else's girl? It's worth thinking about.
The easiest way out of this situation is to hide your love for a married woman, find a free girlfriend and suffer silently in your hearts. In this case, you will avoid special inconveniences and making enemies for yourself. However, all that feeling that will be hidden inside you will one day come out. Maybe, falling in love will pass, than good. But if not, then this is what will come of it. Firstly, you yourself will be unhappy. Loving someone else's girl and realizing that she is now kissing and hugging someone else and doesn't even know about your feelings is unbearable torture. This unrequited love, which often turns into tragedy. Secondly, trying to start a relationship with another girl will make her unhappy. Sooner or later it will become clear that she is not loved, which means she is simply used. What if this fictitious relationship turns into marriage and children? This is terrible... Although, maybe you will fall in love with the girl who is next to you... Think about it for yourself. But remember, we are responsible for those we have tamed.. If you feel that the love for someone else’s girl is too strong and it is unknown when it will disappear, you should wait. Do not resort to the “knock out fire with fire” method, not in this case.
Another variant. You love and are determined to take the girl away. Well, go for it! After all, this is your chance for happiness that needs to be taken. There may not be another one. Show your sympathy unobtrusively, pay attention to the girl’s reaction in response to your compliments, company and little meaningful gifts. Become a friend first. Don't expose the girl to problems with her boyfriend. No need to climb born. And haste is not enough when it gives advantages. If you see reciprocal sympathy, you can become more persistent and lively. This happens. That the feelings in the existing couple have long passed. And the two young people in her are connected only by habit. Then you will be the perfect chance to get out of this vicious circle. Therefore, it’s good to start by approaching the girl and making friends with her. So you will be aware of it personal life. If a girl really loves her boyfriend very much young man, not you, will have to leave. For true loving person, the happiness of his beloved is his personal happiness. And if she is happy not with you, but with him, let her go.. No matter how hard it is for you.. You won’t be nice by force.
If the woman you like is the companion of your loved one, it’s more complicated. If you manage to take your missus away, then it is unlikely that you will be able to maintain the male friendship. Well, unless, again, habit reigns in those relationships. Therefore, before making a choice, think about which of this couple is closer and dearer to you, and maintain or create that relationship.
And finally, if your beloved is married, and maybe with children... My advice to you. If she is happily married, leave her alone and await your fate. Think or talk to her about what is truly best for her.
Feelings are an uncontrollable thing. Because of love, we are capable of any madness. They are able to cross out everything and create something new. But think about whether you really need this...
You've probably already seen these hypocrites who take away other people's wives and then tearfully announce to everyone that they are doing this solely for the sake of love and higher goals. You also know that they do this solely because of the desire to take possession of this woman, and love has nothing to do with it.
A man is by nature a predator, cruel and selfish, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Every time a man sees his next victim, he makes every effort to achieve what he wants. And even if a man feels competition, in this particular case the woman’s husband, he will still take risks and achieve what he wants. This is his nature.
Therefore, when we talk about love for a married woman, we should not talk about high goals and future achievements, we must clearly understand that this is an exclusively male desire that forces him to act contrary to the rules and opinions of society.
Is it possible to take away a married woman?
This question has a fairly simple answer, which nullifies all morality and decency: “If a woman is truly devoted to her husband, or the husband is a strong and authoritative person, then you will not be able to do anything with her.” Therefore, if you showed your attention to this woman, and she reciprocated, then either you are much better than her husband, or she is an unfaithful fool who would be stupid not to take advantage of.
This is a common law of nature when a stronger or more skilled male “squeezes” prey and females from a weaker one. And he doesn’t think about morality or any kind of decency, he thinks exclusively about himself and his comfort.
You should do the same. We tried to attack, got repulsed, okay, we retreat. They attacked another time, or on another woman, did not receive a response, and took everything for themselves. Nothing criminal or shameful!
Children and their future. Often in examples they give us the children of this woman, they tell us their age and their future. And all this, as if, should scare away a man and make him think about the correctness of his actions.
As we know from extensive experience, a man does not care at all about the future of this woman’s children, what money they will live on, and who will grow up from them. A man wants to take possession of this woman here and now, this is his primary and most important desire, he does not think about anything else.
Also, the man is not worried about what will happen after this woman leaves her husband, or the husband simply finds out about the betrayal. He got his, he wants to get more, but he doesn’t need any responsibility or problems. This woman's children are not his problem.
Of course, you will give examples when a woman left her husband for another man, and he ultimately raised and supported her and her children. But this is a slightly different situation: the woman was able to subjugate this man to her will in time and forced him to agree to such conditions. This is not love - this is competent manipulation!
Her husband - good man. When another person parks in your space in front of your nose, you don’t think about what a good family man and kind person he is, you think about what a real goat he is! The same thing happens with this woman’s husband, this man is preventing you from getting the woman you want. This means that you must do everything possible so that you win and he loses. And there is no need to think about morality here, simple and brutal competition.
Is it necessary to destroy this woman’s family?
It often happens that sex and meetings for 2-3 months completely dispel any interest in this woman, and you are already starting to think about how to dump her somewhere. And the pleasant moment is your victory. You set yourself the goal of conquering this woman, you achieved this and used her, and then gave her back to a man who is blind and weak.
And understand that she will maintain this relationship and family not because of children and some connections, but because weak man who is ready to endure any bullying from his wife.
Is it necessary to put pressure on a woman to leave the family?
If your goal is not one-time sex and meetings, but family, and you want this particular woman, then you have no reason not to put pressure on her. The longer you allow her to decide and make decisions, the weaker your position will look, which means you will begin to be the same as her husband. Will she exchange the awl for soap in this case?
I love you, I want to be with you. Quite low pressure, which is suitable only for stupid women who believe in pure love and romance. Women who are smarter and more cunning understand perfectly well that you won’t get enough of love.
I want you to be only mine, plus pressure for confession and divorce. It works better, because you show your determination and begin to subordinate it to your will. Throw in some negativity about her prospects with her husband and it will be fine. This is the main option that is preferable to use.
Confidence and a thorough plan. If you begin to feel that a woman is finally deciding to stay with her husband, then you can use last option. Tell her about love and give her a plan for how you will live with her, for what, and so on. In other words, you show her that for her sake you will work and earn money, and everything will be fine for her. Some kind of bribery. This is actually the case when this woman has become more necessary to you than she needs you. It's pathetic, but if you really need it, you can try it.
Is it easy to leave a married woman later?
After you have sex with this woman and your hormonal levels go down, then her weak spots and major shortcomings. Add here possible problems with her divorce, children and other difficulties, and you understand that it is much easier to leave her now than to drag her around later. Therefore, it is very easy to leave such women. What happens to her and her husband is no longer your problem. Checked!
We sincerely hope that this article will help men not to hesitate and easily take away from others what they want to get, and women will understand that it is not always “ new love"Wonderful.
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