Dear girls, good afternoon!
I am 50 years old and live in Denmark. I have been on various dating sites for 2-3 months. In my profile, I very clearly indicated my intentions - to meet a good, decent and pretty Russian or Ukrainian woman.
Every day I received messages from 18-20 year old women. They want to “create a happy family” with a person 30-99 years old.
They are painted beyond recognition - with such makeup that they look like clowns in a circus. Most of their photography is done in the studio and is heavily edited (I'm a photographer and I can see that). Many of the photographs show them half naked - it's like going to the red light district in Amsterdam, Hamburg or other "prostitution capital". They don’t know how to take good photographs (read the article on the site for information on how to do this).
Several times I answered their letters and tried to explain that they only attract dishonest men.
Women my age often behave no better.
In the exchange of letters, when I started asking for close-ups of my face without makeup, they disappeared and I never received such photos.
What happened to Russian and Ukrainian women? How would they react if I uploaded photos of myself and was painted like a clown?
Oh yes - one more thing:
Very often Ukrainian women do not answer my questions. Then I ask again and ask them to answer if they are interested. They then usually answer some of my questions, but only some of them. Then, after some time, I give up and the correspondence ends.
In my opinion, when communicating, you need to ask questions and answer them, and only then can you reach agreement in the relationship. Without having a specific idea about the person you are communicating with, all this dating will be nothing other than internet entertainment, as someone already mentioned earlier in the topic.
Thanks for your comments, I'm really interested in reading about your dating experiences.
Good luck! Eric.
The text of the letter was translated through Google Translator and edited by site moderators. Comments by Eric and without name have been moved from “How to write letters to a foreign man”.
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38 comments to “ Russian women, what happened to you?”
- without name:
Erik, why don’t you want to find a right girl for you among Dane women?
- Erik:
I'm tired of Danish women. After 40 years of fighting for women's liberation and equal rights (which I absolutely support), the reality is that women now constantly criticize their husbands. A woman criticizing her husband in public has become almost normal, but if a husband criticizes his wife in private , this can lead to crises in relationships. Regardless of whether he is right or wrong, she accuses him of being a male chauvinistic idiot.
It seems that women do not want to be equal - they want to control their people and make them obedient and humble. I've actually seen many examples where this has succeeded. In these cases, the husband often “breaks down” on the woman – because now he is not a real man anymore!I’m tired of Danish women. After 40 years of struggle for women’s liberation and equal rights (which I absolutely support), the reality is now that women constantly criticize their husbands. A woman criticizing her husband in public, have become almost normal, but if a husband criticizes his wife privately, it can lead to crises in the relationship. Regardless of whether he is right or not, she accuses him of being a male-chauvinistic idiot.
It seems like women do not want to be equal – they want to control their men and make them obedient and humble. I’ve actually seen many examples where this has succeeded. In these cases, the husband is often “scrapped” by the woman – because now he is not a real man anymore! - without name:
I think if the couple has a crisis in relations, the guilt is lying on both partners (woman and man) but not only on a woman. To build stable relations both partners should work on them and be flexible, otherwise someday such relations will give a crack.
Our women can be the same as you wrote here. or do you think they all are obedient and silent?
- Erik:
I don't have any experience working with Russian or Ukrainian women, so I don't know what to answer. In December I'm going to Ukraine to meet a woman. After this I'll probably be a little more experienced.
I don´t have any experience with Russian or Ukrainian women, so I don´t know what to answer. In December I go to Ukraine to meet a woman. After that I will probably be a little more experienced.
- without name:
Then I wish you good luck.
- Erik:
Thank you. I'm looking forward to meeting her. If we can fall in love, that's great. Even if we don't match I'm sure that we are similar to each other and have interesting experiences for both of us and become friends instead. So we have nothing to lose.
Thank you. I look forward to meet with her. If we can fall in love it´s great. Even if we are not a match I am sure we will like each other and have an interesting experience of both of us and become friends instead. So we have nothing to loose.
- Tatiana:
Hello! I agree with the first point (about age).. of course, young girls are looking for “happiness” over the hill, and exchange youth for place of residence))). As for makeup... You, Eric, are not asked to show off your dignity on the Internet! and for a woman, makeup means a lot!!)) in the end.. you just turn on Skype and see your face in detail))) You’re just like buying a cow)))
Regards, Tatiana. - Anna:
Eric. Why do you speak so categorically about all Russian women. Here for example I have exposed quite normal photo in a profile. But to me the exclusively tritely set up men address.
- Marina:
Erik, if you receive question- will you answer all of them?
If MY partner don`t answer me (f.e. about his nearest relatives) does it mean he is not serious to ME? - Marina:
And more... It is important You come to your girl earlier?
Or it don`t care? maybe she come to you at first? What do you think? - Oksana:
Eric is probably looking for a sorceress who should change his life (and he doesn’t have to put any effort into it). I would also stop writing to a man who is looking for a submissive woman in another country, just because he is afraid of his own. Nobody wants to be a “comfortable” wife. He needs an obedient woman whom he wants to control. I see that we are not talking about equality and partnerships here (this is my opinion) And a request to send a letter with a close-up photo without makeup? I wouldn’t send it away... it would probably scare off many people. I would suggest Eric chat on Skype if he really wants to see the face of his interlocutor. At the same time, you can see how she speaks, hear what she says and understand much more.
- Kateryna:
Erik is right about many things. I completely agree with him on the issue of photographs. Out of curiosity, I discovered photographs of women my age (I’m 42). And what did I see? These are not photos of 40-year-old women, but of dubiously young ladies openly offering themselves. It's not even funny, but rather sad. We hide our faces behind masks and at the same time we want pure love...
- Natalia:
You know, if they told me like that, “send me a photo without makeup,” I would stop the correspondence one hundred percent. It’s like “open your mouth and show your teeth,” like choosing a horse at the market, honestly.
Regarding female feminism-chauvinism, I have long understood that it is a pure scam that Western men, for some reason of their lack of success with local women, are trying to blow into the ears of naive Slavic virgins.
Virgos, don’t be naive, in Europe there are exactly the same women as you and me. They fall in love, get married, have children, and family values are very much instilled there. Otherwise, if you listen to our Eric, the Danish nation would have died out long ago. The distinctive feature is that these women know their rights, in case of humiliation and oppression, the law will be on her side, and she is financially stable and independent from her man.
By the way, I stop correspondence with a man immediately if he starts throwing mud at local women, telling tall tales like what you told us here. This is bad form, I think.
And as for the 18-20 year old half-naked “clowns in the circus”, who forces you to answer their letters? Don't waste your time and look for women your age and with more modest photos. - Angelina:
This article is far-fetched. I don't think Eric really exists. Because before meeting a woman, you should not write letters and ask for photos. and talk and see each other on SKYPE. There you can see a face without makeup and close-up! Ask a question and get an immediate answer! Make jokes, exchange photos and slide shows. There you can already feel how much you have in common and whether you like each other in communication. I was wrong? Nothing happened to normal Russian women! And there are many abnormal people not only in our country, but also abroad! Look at them on the same or foreign dating sites. Many foreign men want to meet me, but for some reason most of them are looking for a virtual sex partner or email correspondence to find out only sexual preferences. At the same time, they are practically not interested in a woman’s lifestyle, her hobbies and habits, and intellect. You can find out about all this by talking online, right? They don't plan to meet in real life. Why did I decide this? Yes, because many of them ask to send a photo, preferably a beach one. Avoid video calls. Very often these are scammers. I recognize them very quickly and don't waste my time. If a person does not want to speak using a video camera and microphone, then he has something to hide. It may not even be a man or a foreigner. and a resident of your city. I have a good command of several languages and can speak English fluently. Dear women and men! Don't communicate with people who avoid video calls! I hope you don’t need scammers or epistolary cheats. At least speak English. Without knowledge of a foreign language, your chances are almost zero. Good luck to you, Eric, if you really exist and not the fictional character of the moderator of this site.
- ANYA SOFI:
Good afternoon Eric!! I will write in Russian))) I am a Russian girl myself, I currently live in Russia. I have a banal story of meeting my loved one via the Internet. He is your neighbor - this is Sweden. You are right, many girls sometimes go to a dating site, as it seems to me, for fun and entertainment!! They don’t know their true intentions and that’s why they’re still alone and can’t find a normal man!!! I immediately set myself a direct goal - a serious relationship or no communication at all just like that!! and I achieved this because I value it very much person and I don’t want to part with him!! I think you should look for maybe girls from other countries - not necessarily from Russia or Ukraine. You are right - our women love to abuse makeup!!! Sometimes they don’t know the limits!! Rather, Russian girls often think about their face and appearance, but do not think about other qualities...
- Erik:
For sure I´m real:
_http://www.1st-international.com/profile.php?ID=1000408099 - Angelina:
Hello, dear Erik.
Let me give you an advise once more. Socialize on SKYPE and you protect yourself from many problems and don’t waste your time for nothing in searching your life partner. Good luck. - Erik:
@Stranger. wrote:
Have I understood correctly? You do not think it is weird or symptomatic that young women exhibit themselves and will make contact with men who are 2-3 times older than themselves? - Stranger:
Dear Eric!
I don't speak about you. I have the man has asked SKYPE for dialogue.
On a videocall it has started to be engaged in the genitals. It was young and beautiful.
On the Internet many inadequate men. My girlfriends spoke as.
Do you consider it properly? Whom do you protect?
I in what am guilty? - Erik:
@Stranger. wrote:
It sounds disgusting what you are telling. I only experienced the situation from my own perspective, so I was not aware that of course there would be a lot of perverted idiots, who use women on dating sites as their involuntary audience.
I'm glad you tell that. In general, it is interesting to hear what they think in the “other end” of the Internet.I don´t find you guilty in anything. I´m sorry if you got that impression.
I´m not protecting anyone. I am in this forum to learn. I tell about that little experience I have so far and I ask questions.
- Stranger:
Dear Eric!
It is disgusting to you to listen to me- I understand you. But it was disgusting to me to look at that the man. I have quickly removed it.
On a site I look for the decent, kind, good, lovely friend. I should be understood, instead of to condemn and abuse.
You the man and prospect at you good. Many adequate and lovely, decent, beautiful women in Russia.
I wish you success and a happy meeting! - Red Moscow:
Out of curiosity I went to the link you gave… Are you serious? Professional photographer? I beg your pardon.
What else are you professional at? I see you are very good at asking women to show their faces without makeup. Thank goodness you don’t ask them to show up in their underwear to see if they have any extra pounds. Listen, Mr. Apollo, for me personally you look like a person who has been heavily engaged in the bottle. If I’m wrong I apologize, but that’s what your facial features tell me. That’s why I believe nobody from your own country (with makeup or without it) want to be with you.
- Erik:
No just amateur/hobby photographer.
On most dating-sites it´s actually not necessary to ask for bikini-shots. Many women use them - ask them why. I don't know.
No I´ve never had an alcohol problem — this is just the way I look without make-up. The reason why I am so ugly might be that I´ve worked in shifts for many years as an engineer on a powerplant.
For some strange reason many danish women want to be with me, but I´m tired of them.
Even though I don´t know you I´m also a little tired of you already.Was this satisfactory response to your insults?
- Red Moscow:
I know what work in changing shifts can do to a person's health as I myself had to work at nights then in days then at nights again and it had a very bad effect on my health condition, so I do apologize for my words about drinking habits .
If you have been working nights I can also understand that it’s difficult to date someone since in the daytime you are worn out and feel like warmed over dead. I very well know that feeling from my own experience.
If you allow me some friendly advice, I would recommend you the following in your search:
1) change your shift to days. No woman wants to live with a “zombie”. Women need attention, especially if they come from a foreign country and have nobody to socialize with but their husband who is fast asleep in the daytime.
2) Don’t ask ladies to show up without makeup. In the countries that descend from the Soviet Union (like Russia, Ukraine etc.) women consider makeup part of their every day “dress code”. You can request the photos with a very light makeup, but asking for no makeup is like asking for no clothes: offensive and rude. Ladies feel like you are looking for a pet or a horse and you want to look in their mouth to check the condition of their teeth. (By the way I heard that such habit does exist in some Americans as dental care is very expensive in the U.S.A.). Notice that no lady has asked you to send them the measurements of your private parts, though for some these might be worth consideration. Don’t make ladies to feel awkward, but show them who are as a person and your true feelings.
3)Women who show up in bikini are the kind that want “sell themselves” or most likely just spammers who use photos of the people from the internet, not themselves. If you are looking for a wife, not a whore, filter them out.
4)Download Skype (skype.com) and let people know your nickname. Even here on this site your real existence has become very questionable. Let ladies see you face to face on the webcam and talk to you on the micro. It will provide you with the same opportunity so you can see who you talk to.
Since you mentioned that you are already tired of me without even knowing me I won’t bother you again. Thank you for your attention and good luck.
- Erik:
I liked this reply much better than the other one 😉 so now I´m not tired of you any longer……and let me say something about this. When communicating in fora like this, it´s crucial that we are diplomatic as you can´t see the other persons reaction.
If you and I had been friends and were having coffee together, you could have told me just about anything wihout making me pissed.
And you´re right that I look like someone who´s been drinking — I just don´t like to hear that from a foreigner who doesn´t know anything about me.Let's all be constructive and provide each other knowledge and facts.
1) It´s funny you use the expression “zombie” - that´s exactly the word I´ve used when explaining how you often feel when working in shifts.
2)Thanks for your advice.
3)I agree — The bikini photos seem to be an advantage for someone like me, as it makes it a lot easier to filter them out.
4) I use Skype already and I agree. Writing informative letters is a good start, but it won´t do it alone. If we are serious it´s good to talk - if we have a common language.
- Red Moscow:
What makes me wonder is that a person is trying to find a life partner abroad while women in his Motherland are almost chasing for him.
You say you do not like Danish women, but for God’s sake you are going to involve in your life someone whose cultural background you don’t know even approximately. Have you heard of culture clash? It’s going to happen, it’s inevitable. Are you ready for this?
Will you be able to accept this fact and live though it with your partner who is going to go through a lot of changes and the stress you cannot even imagine? Do you expect her to stay “diplomatic”? Most Slavic women are very emotional and if you expect her to keep everything inside and always be nice with you, it will not happen. (“Nice’ seems crucial to you, doesn’t it? You sound like quite an irritable person I can hear it in your writing style and in your facial features without even talking to you”).
Ask yourself honestly what do you expect from a Slavic woman? An excellent housekeeper? A cook who will always feed you with fresh borscht and steak? An always ready lover (or at least someone who can fake it since you pay the bills)?
You might tell me differently but most of the men who look for a wife abroad and cannot find a spouse in their own country are looking for some kind of a pet. Always jolly pet who jumping happily when the “daddy” comes home.
Will your wife be able to find a job that will be sufficient for her education and intelligence?
Will she be accepted by your society as an equal, not just some “mail bride” from a poor country?
Ask yourself honestly what is it you can give to a woman from Ukraine or Russia to make her happy with you? Or do you think that foreigners require less than women from Denmark to be happy with you?
And if you are able to answer all these questions honestly, our dialogue might continue.
- Erik:
(What makes me wonder is that a person is trying to find a life partner abroad while women in his Motherland are almost chasing for him.)
-I believe you.(You say you do not like Danish women, but for God's sake you are going to involve in your life someone whose cultural background you don't know even approximately. Have you heard of culture clash? It's going to happen, it's inevitable. Are are you ready for this?)
-Yes(Will you be able to accept this fact and live though it with your partner who is going to go through a lot of changes and the stress you cannot even imagine? Do you expect her to stay “diplomatic”?)
-No no, now you misunderstood me. What I said was, that in this forum we need to be diplomatic.(Most Slavic women are very emotional and if you expect her to keep everything inside and always be nice with you, it will not happen. (“Nice’ seems crucial to you, doesn’t it?)
-This question is based on prejudice. I can't answer because it has nothing to do with me.(You sound like quite an irritable person I can hear it in your writing style and in your facial features without even talking to you).
-OK — here we go again!(Ask yourself honestly what do you expect from a Slavic woman?)
-Maybe I did that already?(An excellent housekeeper? A cook who will always feed you with fresh borscht and steak?)
-I´m an OK cook myself(An always ready lover (or at least someone who can fake it since you pay the bills)?
-Why are you talking about prostitution?(You might tell me differently but most of the men who look for a wife abroad and cannot find a spouse in their own country are looking for some kind of a pet. Always jolly pet who jumping happily when the “daddy” comes home.)
-I´m sorry but I can´t help you in answering this question, as I´ve never married a man from abroad.(Will your wife be able to find a job that will be sufficient for her education and intelligence?)
-I think it really depends on what type of training the incoming spouse has. An ordinary Russian teacher would probably not be able to teach in a Danish school immediately. In contrast, a music teacher, a hairdresser, a doctor or a gardener could easily find jobs as these educations are universal.(Will she be accepted by your society as an equal, not just some “mail bride” from a poor country?)
-She´ll be accepted as the person she really is.(Ask yourself honestly what is it you can give to a woman from Ukraine or Russia to make her happy with you?)
-Maybe I did that already?Or do you think that foreigners require less than women from Denmark to be happy with you?
-No, but I hope they´ll be different.(And if you are able to answer all these questions honestly, our dialogue might continue.)
-Yes, that’s allright — but why are you so angry and prejudiced against me? - Red Moscow:
You replies look smart enough. But not very intelligent. You talk like a person who has no idea what he is doing. All these “maybe I did” and smart pants “I didn’t marry a man” might be funny to yourself, but to me they just show someone who is not ready to take responsibility for someone else’s life. You want to make life easier for yourself not even thinking about how hard it might become for someone else.
Do you say that they accept Russian medical diplomas in Denmark? So they won’t allow your wife to teach children, but allow her to treat patients?! Very unlikely.
How about to go to your boards of education and find out if they even consider accepting Russian or Ukrainian diplomas and provide our specialists with jobs? Do they offer any kind of re-qualification classes? Does the government pay for them or you have to pay out of your pocket? What jobs do they offer after successful completion of the classes?
I don’t believe you have any idea about the difficulties that people with higher education face when they end up abroad. Neither has your bride(or brides if they are many). Are you ready to pay bills for her to go to college or University in Denmark to prove her Soviet diplomas? Or you call it prostitution too? Or you just misunderstood what I was writing about?
If you marry a hairdresser or a trolleybus driver, it might be a different story. She might be happy to sit all day home watching Russian movies on the computer and cleaning your flat, spending money on new outfits (if you provide her with it again, and do not call it prostitution, it's family life with a simple person)… But having a higher education yourself, are you ready for a woman of this education and intelligence level? Do you need a partner or help around the house?
If she has children, are you ready to pay for their education and health care expenses?
And what is she will never be proficient enough in your native language? Since you are not a young boy, your future wife is not going to be a teenage girl either. If a person has never learned a foreign language in the youth, it will become even more difficult in the mature age.
Will you be able to support your wife all your life and even after you dead, if she is not able to do it herself?
Remember that once you bring her to your life, you won’t be able to send her back home and look for someone else more suitable. It’s like adopting children: a lot of responsibilities and a lot of disappointments.
I’m not angry with you, I’m just asking you straightforward questions that a lot of internet brides didn’t even think of (or don’t even want to consider, living in illusions). Do they make you feel uncomfortable? Or do you prefer to avoid them and stay in the dream world where everyone succeeds and happy?
- Erik:
Yes I think you are very uncomfortable to discuss with. Not because you asked me questions and telling me “truths”, but because you continue to insinuate that I am a unintelligent bastard who thinks with his penis and have no real intentions.
You have not told the slightest about your own background and yet you expect that I — on behalf of all men in the west — accept to be judged by your self-appointed people’s court … but maybe this was your occupation before 1991?Finally, I wonder why you refer to all Russian women as if they were helpless chickens.
I´m off to work. Have a nice weekend everyone.
- Red Moscow:
Well, well… It wasn’t me who called you “intelligent bastard”. You gave yourself this name, not me. Lol.
I don’t know what you think with, all I know it’s not entirely your brain. And again it was you who decided on the mentioned above part of your body, not me. 🙂
Fortunately, Russian women are not helpless chicken as you might think they are, and some of them were unfortunate to deal with internet manipulators.
Explanation: internet manipulator is the guy who by any means avoids answering serious questions, turns them into jokes, and who is typically oversensitive and easily offended by direct conversation, taking his opponent responsible for making him feel uncomfortable. Do you recognize anybody?
I do not make any conclusions,I just let Russians ladies to see what dough you are made of. Actually you open their eyes with your replies. Thank you for doing this.
- without name:
I liked Red Moscow’s questions)
It’s really a huge responsibility to bring a wife from abroad.“How about to go to your boards of education and find out if they even consider accepting Russian or Ukrainian diplomas and provide our specialists with jobs? Do they offer any kind of re-qualification classes? Does the government pay for them or you have to pay out of your pocket? What jobs do they offer after successful completion of the classes?”
“Are you ready to pay bills for her to go to college or University in Denmark to prove her Soviet diplomas? If she has children, are you ready to pay for their education and health care expenses?”
In my opinion men who use the internet to find a girl for themselves are not very popular in their country, cuz if a man is adequate, he always can find an equal girl for him in HIS country. I think there is only 5% of the men in the internet are adequate and have real intentions to build a family. And they should have interest in the questions above.
- Red Moscow:
To #37 I appreciate your point and support. The uneasiest part for me is that people are trying to solve their personal problems by marrying foreigners (and I don't not speak here just about men, but women too), but as the result they just create total mess out of their own lives and their partners' lives.
Unfortunately in most cases neither the woman nor her husband are not even close to the real understanding how much unexpected and shockingly unusual life is going to become even in the very simple things when you live abroad far away from familiar environment.
Most fiancee’s visa’s are not long enough to give a woman a decent chance to learn things about the country. Being in the fiancee’s status you often cannot even obtain the information about the benefits that you will get when you become a permanent resident (so you cannot make an informed decision if this country suits you). And to become a legal resident you have to marry a person whose country you do not even know well enough to decide if you even want to live there. It's a viscous circle you cannot break.
Even women with good knowledge of the language get completely disoriented and helpless and if their husbands are not willing to help them around (or just not willing to do so, calling them helpless Russian chicken as our friend above did). Women often become depressed and feel that they were cheated out of their expectations and return home after years of unhappy marriage (or in other words years wasted on something not worthy while their youth, beauty and health have faded away).
If your partner feels that you are making up this feeling of dissatisfaction, offer him to live for a while in your own country, let him walk in your shoes. Believe most of men won’t go for this.
A person should live for several years in the country of his/her choice just to get a slight feeling of being oriented in the environment. I know a lot of people who never found their place abroad weather they stayed them or returned home.
And when children are born it becomes a total mess, because the child cannot even leave the country without your husband’s permission. No one will protect your and your children's interests, neither the embassy of your Motherland nor the government of his country (even if you are a citizen too).
please think twice before you even try to get into this bloody mess. That's my friendly advice.
- without name:
Well, actually everything is not so difficult and awful as you’ve written here. In Western Europe women have good protection. They are protected by law. If the husband allows himself too much and somehow offences his wife, she can turn to police.
I was just saying that men should be ready to have answers on some important questions.
- Red Moscow:
Are you judging out of your personal experience? I mean did you personally have to talk to authorities about the problems in your family? Of course I'm not in Western Europe and can only read stories from newspapers about a Russian actress who was accused in “suffocating love” towards her child, ended up in French prison, transferred to Russian prison from where the Russian president let her go free, but she is still without her daughter who is at the moment living with a foster family in France because her French dad' felt it would be the right way to protect his daughter from her mother and obviously himself. lol.
I’m telling you from my personal experience (not in Western Europe though) that things get pretty serious and the law (including international law) won’t be on your side. Women don’t even realize what whey are getting into until all of a sudden their lives turn very ugly.
I’m not saying that this will happen to every woman, I’m saying that that’s the risk everyone should know about.
- Tanya:
Why is the translation of letters so bad? Is this coming through the site? I don’t believe that our girls don’t know English, otherwise they wouldn’t be interested in the topic. It seemed to me that it was distorted by an auto translator, like those that are installed on everyone’s computer. Stranger. wrote:
01/15/2012 at 5:34
Dear Eric!
I don't speak about you. I have the man has asked SKYPE for dialogue.
On a videocall it has started to be engaged in the genitals. It was young and beautiful.
On the Internet many inadequate men. My girlfriends spoke as.
Do you consider it properly? Whom do you protect?
I in what am guilty?And Eric's Russian speech is no better. It’s such a shock that this illusion is deliberately created that Slavic women are a little stupid, although there are a lot of literate, smart women. But this is not beneficial for anyone. It is necessary that again and again some Vasya from Denmark or the USA thinks that our girls are ready to do anything just to marry him. It is necessary that our girls go abroad again and again and step on the same rake, etc. If this is taken away from our women, then we will most likely become uninteresting to them. The media will be perplexed: how is it that girls from Eastern Europe no longer fall into sexual slavery or end up in marriages with Muslims or other kinds of foreigners???? What's happened???? Have they become a good life???? This will disrupt the propaganda of Eastern Europe as such...
- Wild:
>And Eric’s Russian speech is no better
Dear Tanya, Eric writes through Google Translator. This is written in the article.
The article itself has been slightly corrected by moderators for ease of perception, comments are translated by Eric through a translator.Former Russian politician and now publisher Alfred Koch published an article on the Ekho Moskvy website in which he discusses Russian men and their attitude towards women. The article is sharp, sharp, and largely correct. I offer you a slightly shortened version of this article.
***In 1945, the bloodiest war in human history ended.
For Russia, it meant the loss of approximately a third of the male population. These were, as a rule, men of childbearing age, and the strongest, the bravest, the most honest. The color of the nation.
The nation, having lost its color, provided its women (who had already carried the country with them throughout the war) the opportunity to have a man from what was left. A demobilized healthy man was such a rarity that there was a real hunt for him. In this hunt, women were ready for anything: parasitism and drunkenness of the “beloved” man. On his selfishness and reluctance to build a family, take care of children or earn money. To lies and endless betrayals with unfortunate people like her. To beatings and humiliation of her dignity.The man turned into a frivolous, irresponsible jumper. A lazy, always drunk redneck, with horseradish at the ready. And the woman became a working horse, on which everything rests: family, collective farm (factory), children, household. And even at night, be kind enough to wave him (who smells of vodka and other people’s cheap perfume) a little more quickly, otherwise he, at an uneven hour, will go to someone else - look, they’re standing in line.
Boys who grew up in such an atmosphere no longer perceived the girl as a Beautiful Lady.
No, carrying a briefcase became humiliating, grooming, giving flowers, writing poetry - all this quickly disappeared and remained in pre-war films. It has become fashionable to use foul language in front of women, to humiliate them with obscene comments in the back, to discuss their legs, breasts, and buttocks out loud, to publicly talk about one’s amorous achievements, and to compare girls out loud with each other.Having become a little older, these young men began to be three hours late for dates with their girlfriends, deliberately demonstrating their disdain for them, and having taken wives they saw their main valor in the fact that they did not divorce them.
So they directly say to each other: I haven’t fucked her for five years! Let him say thank you for still living with her. And all because I am a noble person.The girls, following the example of their unfortunate mothers, believed that this was the way it should be, despite the fact that the disproportion between men and women had almost disappeared.
They patiently endured all these humiliations, and even regular beatings. A drunken treasure lying on the sofa was perceived as the norm: well, a person is unlucky in life - his bosses don’t like him. It has come to be believed that if the head of the family, instead of spending time with his wife, hangs out in the garage all weekend (fishing), then such a woman is lucky: look, she doesn’t drink or party. And at this very fishing trip (in the garage), this uncle is already instilling in his son: women cannot be given free rein. If you dissolve them, then there will be no sin. If anything, it’s not too much for the faces. They understand this language well.Over time, Russian men have lost the main thing that a man represents: courage, nobility, honor and dignity.
Having become dishonest, they easily lie and deceive others. Having lost courage, they are afraid to openly fight the enemy, preferring to act on the sly. Having lost their dignity, they turned from workers into grabbers who only strive to steal everything that is bad. And having lost their nobility, they have ceased to respect their opponents and can no longer count on reciprocal respect.As soon as Russian women had a choice, they were surprised to discover that it could be different.
The avalanche-like growth of marriages with foreigners or simply with men of another nation is a characteristic sign of the times. A Russian man cannot stand comparison with anyone: neither with a Chechen, nor with a Chinese, nor with an American, nor with a Jew. The characteristic statistics of marriages in the Russian regions bordering China is a death sentence for a Russian man!Having traveled around the world and looked at other nations, I can say with confidence: nowhere, in any lands, is there such a bestial attitude towards women as in Russia.
Everywhere: in the East, in the West, in the Islamic world - a woman is protected, respected, helped, loved.Everything in nature is interconnected: having gotten rid of the need to participate in competition for a woman, the Russian man degraded and turned into an uninteresting scum of civilization - into a narcissistic, touchy, cowardly bastard.
On the contrary, participating in the fiercest competition for a man, the Russian woman turned into something completely magical.And now I can say this firmly, based on my own observations: the Russian man is the most vile, the most disgusting and the most worthless type of man on Earth.
A Russian woman is the most beautiful and most desirable woman of all. “More is better” - I saw it.I can say that the Russian government in its current form is a product of the degradation of the Russian man.
The Russian government is deceitful and disgusting - because the men who personify it are deceitful and disgusting. The Russian government is insidious and dishonest - because the men who form it are insidious and dishonest. The Russian government is stupid and vile - because the men who elect it are stupid and vile.
And who is to blame for the fact that we have become like this? Our women. There is no one else.So what can heal us? Only women.
Dear Russian women! Best in the world! Most beautiful! The most patient! The most passionate and desirable!
Don't give it to the scum! Don't mess with them! Tell them directly that they are vile and disgusting. Even if they are Russian men. Love only those who are noble, courageous, kind, hardworking, caring and honest. Even if it is Chinese or Zulu.Remember that even the worst of you is better than many Chinese and Zulu women.
After all, you are a product of fierce competition. And if before you had no opportunity to find a man except at home, now the whole world is open to you: go ahead, don’t look at this drunken mug from the next door. Let him drink himself to death, it’s not your concern anymore. Give us children from real men. And then we will be saved.Russian women! The salvation of Russia is in your hands (and not only in your hands).
_________________________________________________Faktrum proposes to try to solve the mystery of this phenomenon - a Russian woman. How? With the help of facts, of course!
Russian7.ru- In Russia there are approximately 10 million more women than men.
- During a divorce in Russia, in 90% of cases the child remains with the mother.
- The wife of the peasant Fyodor Vasiliev gave birth to 69 children between 1725 and 1765. Of these, 16 pairs of twins, 7 triplets and 4 quadruplets (a total of 27 births). Of the 69 children born, 67 survived infancy.
- The most common female names in Russia: Anastasia, Maria, Daria and Anna.
- 53% of women in Russia wear fur coats in winter.
- Russian women often break records. Russian Natalya Molchanova became the first female diver to break the 100-meter dive mark, Soviet pilot Marina Raskova set a record for the longest solo flight, Muza Malinovskaya set a record in parachute jumping. Soviet track and field athlete Galina Chistyakova holds the current long jump record, and pole vaulter Elena Isinbaeva holds 28 world records.
- Russian model Natalya Semanova became the youngest winner of the prestigious The Look of the Year competition. She won it at the age of 14.
- Since 1955, when abortion was legalized in the USSR, an explosive growth in their number began; by 1964, the record for their number was broken in the RSFSR - 5.46 million.
- There are approximately 50 thousand women serving in the Russian army.
- Russian women are considered among the most beautiful in the world. French author Alexander Lutz wrote that “the beauty of a Russian woman is the country’s innumerable capital.”
- Russia became the first country where women took an active part in revolutionary organizations.
- It was the Russian emigrant beauties of the early 20th century who turned modeling work from slave labor into a prestigious and highly paid occupation. Suffice it to recall such names as Natalie Paley, Maria Eristova, Nina and Mia Obolensky, Teya Bobrikova.
- Today, Russian beauties also do not leave the catwalks and covers of fashion magazines. Sasha Pivovarova, Irina Shayk, Tatyana Sorokko, Natalia Vodianova, Natasha Poly, Evgenia Volodina, Irina Kulikova... - this is not a complete list of Russian top models.
- French writer Frederic Beigbeder wrote about Russian girls: “Women of all nationalities hate them, because beauty is unfair, and injustice must be fought against. Russian girls are enemies. This is not the first time for angels, they have always been full of enemies, re-read the Bible, this is a real catalog of martyred angels.”
- During the Great Patriotic War, 90 women became Heroes of the Soviet Union, more than half of them were awarded the title posthumously.
- The share of Russian women in different age groups (% of the total population): under 20 years old - 49%, 29–30 years old - 50%, 40–59 years old - 54%, 60–79 years old - 63%, 80 and older - 76%.
- Russian girls are considered ideal wives in the USA. “Fashion” is coming for them, including from Hollywood. Lara Lieto (Larissa Tyaka) is Adrien Brody's girlfriend, Anastasia Makarenko is Mickey Rourke.
- Despite universally recognized attractiveness by the world community, the results of recent sociological studies have shown that more than 95% of Russian women consider themselves ugly.
- The first female professor in Russia and Northern Europe was Sofya Kovalevskaya.
- The average height of Russian women today is 168 cm, the average weight is 69 kg
- According to current statistics, Russian women today give birth to their first child at the age of 25. In the UK - at 29, in Spain - at 31, in Italy - at 29, in Canada and the USA - at 30 years.
- There were four empresses on the Russian throne: Catherine I, Anna Ioannovna, Elizaveta Petrovna, Catherine II.
- 55% of women of working age live in Russia, 15% are older than working age and 30% are younger than working age.
- The most women live in the Ivanovo and Yaroslavl regions (55% of the region's population each), and the least in the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug (49% of the region's population).
- Russian women have always inspired geniuses, and not only Russians. Elena Dyakonova was the muse of Dali and Eluard, Lydia Delectorskaya - Matisse, Elsa Triolet - Aragon, Olga Khokhlova - Picasso, Lou Salome - Nietzsche and Freud.
- It is believed that in Russia women are less emancipated. Looking at the conditions in Russia, where it is customary to “court” the weaker sex, European women are often perplexed why our compatriots have not yet declared a revolution and overthrown male chauvinism.
- The relative majority of Russian women have their natural hair straight (59%) and light brown (35%). More than half of women paint them.
- In 1997, 112,976 women emigrated from Russia abroad. This is a record in the entire history of post-perestroika Russia.
- Inter-dynastic marriages are not uncommon in the history of Russia. It all started with the daughters of Yaroslav the Wise - Anna and Elizabeth (queen of France and Norway, respectively). Paul I's daughter Anna became Queen of the Netherlands, Alexander II's niece became Queen of Greece.
- The percentage of married girls in Russia over the past 10 years has increased from 9% to 29%.
- In Rus', a maiden was distinguished from a husband's maiden not only by the braided braid, but also by other characteristics. For example, by the headdress, by the crown, by the earrings, by the skirt and by the patterns on clothes. And, of course, the wedding ring.
- The first Soviet citizen to visit the White House was the legendary Soviet sniper Lyudmila Pavlichenko.
- Foreigners coming to Russia are still amazed by the dexterity with which Russian women cook. More than 78% of Russian women say they cook at home regularly.
- Due to early male mortality in Russia, by the age of 70, every second woman becomes lonely.
- Children after a divorce in Russia in 95% of cases remain with their mother.
- According to surveys by a statistical agency, it turned out that Russian women consider fried chicken with vegetable stew to be the “sexiest dish”. This is what they will prefer to cook for dinner in order to attract a man.
- According to the Levada Center, 68% of Russian women believe that women should take an active part in political life.
- According to polls in 2012, Alla Pugacheva was recognized as a “real woman” of Russia.
- Lee Harvey Oswald's wife was Marina Prusakova. She became the first Soviet woman on the cover of Time.
- Nikolai Nekrasov's poem “Russian Women” consists of 1827 words. This is the longest poetic work dedicated to the women of one country.
This tough post caused a storm of indignation from Russian women, which is why it had to be deleted
Many Russian women consider themselves enviable brides not only for Russian men, but also for foreigners. But the most beautiful, kind and caring brides, it turns out, lose their rating among foreign grooms.
Recently, provocative material appeared on the Internet, which caused a resonance among women in the post-Soviet space. After which the article even had to be removed from the original source...
Do you still think that a Russian wife is the ultimate dream of any foreigner? Alas, we have to disappoint you: Russian women seem to be going out of fashion. Now we'll tell you why.
No, of course, we are not talking about all Russian women in general. But there is a certain (probably familiar to you) category of women whose only and most important life goal is marriage with a foreigner. And not so long ago it was believed that a “Russian wife” was an ideal wife. Now the “Russian wife” in the eyes of foreigners is a completely different picture. Something like this:
Getting married is sacred for a Russian woman
Let's be honest: few people like to feel like an object rather than a subject. But a man for a “Russian bride” is precisely an object: her goal is to get married. Wear a white dress and get the coveted stamp in your passport. The man himself interests her little; she is only interested in her own situation: whether she is married or not. At the beginning of the 2000s, when a whole stream of “Russian brides” suddenly poured abroad, foreigners rejoiced: here they are, ideal women! Women who are still capable of loving sincerely and honestly! Women who will forgive their beloved almost any shortcomings: I love you - and that’s it! Will get married! Not like feminist Europeans and Americans: this is a test of feelings, a long-term partnership, and only then marriage. May be. If the man is perfect. A Russian woman is not like that. A Russian woman is an ideal wife!
But then it became clear that this wonderful fairy tale is really a fairy tale. A Russian woman who dreams of marrying a foreigner does not need the man himself, she needs marriage. The sooner she becomes a “husband’s wife”, the better, and therefore she agrees to everything. And at that moment, when foreigners, not spoiled by female affection, realized what was really happening - Russian wives began to go out of fashion. Because few people want to connect their lives with a woman for whom you are not a person, but a status. Conditional husband. Free stamp and ring app.
Russian woman is not ready for partnership
A man always owes her something, for the simple reason that he is a man. Most Russian women still prefer to endow men with certain qualities (“breadwinner”, “protector”, “stone wall”), without actually asking the men themselves. The way the average Russian woman understands the definition of “joint budget” is a clear illustration of this relationship: her money is her money, and his money is “ours.” The “Russian wife” is sure that she earns “her own money,” and the husband must bear all financial responsibility for the family. And, in addition to this, he is obliged to pay for all her major purchases (that very fur coat - of course!).
But, however, it's not just about money. The point is about equal partnership in general, which many Russian women deny. “The husband is the head, the wife is the neck.” “A wise woman knows how to get her way,” and so on. Honest, open relationships on equal terms are not the story of the “Russian wife.” She needs to create the appearance of a Parent-Child relationship, where the Parent is the husband responsible for everything, and she is the helpless Child. Allegedly. In fact, she wants to control her husband, but in such a way that he will never guess what is happening. This clumsy game, of course, is immediately visible, but Russian men are usually satisfied with it. There are absolutely no foreigners. They consider this behavior to be manipulation, and they are absolutely right, of course.
Russian woman replaces love with pity
And she herself believes in the myth of her own sacrifice, her own readiness to accept any man. Only Russian wives do not leave worthless husbands: alcoholics, unemployed, domestic tyrants and even crazy people. Only they are ready to endure anything for the sake of preserving the marriage and in the name of the love with which the relationship once began. She used to love this man, but now she feels sorry for him. He will be lost without her! Is anyone else, besides Russian women, capable of this?
It's actually called codependency. A man must be bad so that a woman can be good. He must be unbearable so that everyone around her feels sorry for her, he must suffer so that she consoles her, but at the same time be a criminal so that she becomes a judge. In a white coat. Many Russian women revel in these painful relationships for decades - instead of taking care of their own lives. So, in fact, they do not save an addicted man at all - they drown him in addiction in order to be able to “carry his cross.” Otherwise, something else will fall off her shoulders - and what will she do then?
Russian woman gets married with her whole family
A foreigner who decides to connect his life with a Russian woman must understand that from now on he will be closely connected with her entire family. First of all, with her mother. Jokes about mother-in-law are a reality completely incomprehensible to a person living in a different paradigm. The average European or American “flies out of the nest” quite early and never returns there. He is friends with his parents, but lives his own life, while a Russian woman remains a “mother’s daughter” as long as she has a mother. And this means that her husband will also have a mother. Her mother. The mother must be supported, even if the mother has a husband who seems to owe her - after all, he is most likely the same “heavy cross” that the mother bears all her life. You need to take care of your mother, because she will raise her grandchildren. You can’t just hire a nanny, there must be a loved one with the child, even if this very dear person is raising your child completely wrong, don’t you dare object: it’s the mother!
And besides mom, there is dad, brothers and sisters, grandparents - a complete set, if you are very unlucky. The husband of a Russian woman will be unlucky, of course. Because the family is hers, and now he must take care of it. The newly-made wife herself, having hung her relatives around her husband’s neck, wants not to help, but to receive help. First of all, of course, from the mother, whose personal life must finally and irrevocably end at the moment of the birth of her first grandchild.
Russian woman - mother-heroine
At the same time, most Russian women perceive motherhood as a daily feat. She's a mother! She did a heroic deed! The very fact of giving birth to a child allegedly gives her the right to become slightly bronzed, but this is only the beginning: now she will put her life on the altar of motherhood and will demand honors. And at the same time, she will jealously protect the child from the father: the child needs a mother! She is horrified by the concept of “father on paternity leave.” This is impossible! Only she should be on this leave - and until the child finishes primary school. By this time, by the way, you can give birth to a second one, thus extending your vacation for another decade.
Modern fathers want to take part in raising their children. They are not afraid of sleepless nights, dirty diapers, childhood illnesses, or the first battles in the sandbox. “Dad can do it!” - the “Russian wife” diligently ignores this fact, but something else is worse: she refuses to understand that dad also wants. A modern dad, who grew up outside of Russia, really most often wants to be a full-fledged parent to his children and refuses to be content with the role of a sperm donor and provider of material wealth. But a Russian woman will not allow this: motherhood for her is the only opportunity to realize herself. She seriously calls it “the main purpose of a woman,” and the man does not seem to participate. There is motherhood in Russia, but there is no fatherhood. There is only fatherlessness (often “When the father is alive!” - and who, one wonders, is to blame for this, right?). So a man who chooses a Russian wife must be prepared for the fact that the children will not be his. They are only my mother's. And it is quite natural that modern men are categorically not satisfied with this state of affairs - unless they are Russian, of course.
Russian woman does not know how to be happy
And this is the most important thing. Happiness for such a woman is not a state, but a goal. A goal that she never achieves, because happiness in principle cannot be a goal. It's a process, not a result. But for the “Russian wife” everything is different: “A camel has two humps, because life is a struggle.” She always needs to make some sacrifices. "Beauty requires sacrifice". “You need to work on relationships.” “Motherhood is hard but honorable work.” “A woman should...” “Must” is the main thing. A woman wants to be like a cat, but in reality she behaves like a porcupine: just a little and she bristles with quills, defending herself from this cruel, soulless world. And it cannot be said that she is to blame for this: being determines consciousness.
But we can say with confidence that a Russian woman does not want to change anything. She does not know how to work on herself, does not want to admit her problems and seriously deal with causes and consequences. It’s easier for her to read low-quality literature like “How to marry a foreigner and become happy,” where it is written in clear language: be cunning and manipulate, dominate and humiliate.
And do you know what is most amazing? At the same time, “Russian brides” are sure that they are the very best: the most beautiful in the world, the best wives, and the borders of Russia have long been besieged by crowds of foreigners with wedding rings in their teeth. And they are very surprised when it turns out that foreign women - supposedly ugly, supposedly unkempt, and really daring to demand an equal partnership - for some reason again turned out to be more desirable than they, the ideal Russian wives. How so?!
Now it’s clear why this post caused such a response from readers, because not a single woman would be pleased if such things were written about her.
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Israeli journalist Ravid Gor talks about why Russian women should actually marry foreigners.
Why should you pay attention to my opinion? Perhaps because I lived for 19 years in Israel without losing touch with my homeland. Because I could observe dozens of personal stories of different women that developed before my eyes over the years. Because I myself am a potential object of interest for some ladies and have experience communicating with girls hoping to go abroad in this way. I know several dozen ladies who left their homeland to marry a foreigner. Based on this particular experience, I allowed myself to make several generalizations.
If you do not have extremely valuable professional skills and abilities for languages, resistance to stress and amazing mental flexibility, if you are not ready for the role of a dumb servant-housewife, then you should not marry a foreigner and leave your homeland. If you care even a little about the principles of value and culture that were instilled in you by your parents and school, your environment, then you should not look for a husband abroad.
I should immediately note that I know specific examples of success in emigration, which are based on the marriage of a Russian girl with a foreigner. In my opinion, almost always the main reason for personal success in emigration was the extraordinary talents and abilities of one or another lady who managed to create a strong family with a foreigner, build a career and achieve a high standard of living. Remembering the successful Russian women I knew, I was confirmed in my confidence that these ladies could be no less successful in Russia with a Russian husband.
But there are much more real life stories that I would not call happy. Statistics on divorces of mixed couples are quite difficult to compile, but in Israel and in Europe a considerable part of Russian wives leave their foreign husbands at a certain stage - usually after 3-5 years, having received citizenship or other legal status, Russian wives become disappointed in local husbands. Sometimes they also manage to have children together, and the stories of foreign love turn out to be so heart-warming that they find their way onto TV screens, onto the pages of newspapers, and are even sometimes considered by the European Parliament’s Human Rights Commission. The picture turns out to be unsightly and creates a certain reputation for Russian women. True, this does not greatly affect the demand for Russian brides. If Russian women are ready to make such sacrifices for the sake of sincere love for a wonderful foreigner, then where do these divorces come from, and where does sincere passion go after receiving citizenship?
In recent years, many former Russians have returned to their homeland of their own free will. However, a woman who marries a foreigner and gives birth to his child practically cuts off all avenues of return.
Why shouldn't you marry a foreigner?
Emigration at a conscious age is always stressful. There are no exceptions. Stress always has a bad effect on a person. Everyone is different, and some people are more resilient to stress, but don't expect that you're in the lucky minority. Most likely, after emigrating, you will become a less pleasant person to talk to, less happy.
Difficulties of assimilation
In most countries of the world, one religion dominates, closely connected with the institutions of the state, with customs and traditions. If you do not follow the religion of your fiancé's country of origin, you may have to convert. For some reason, many Russian wives are good at this. There are quite a lot of cases of Russian wives converting to Islam or Judaism.
We acquire our basic social instincts before puberty. As researchers of human behavior write in scientific works, acquired social instincts do not change in adulthood. The social instincts of your spouse, his family members and those around you, even your children, will always be completely different from yours, which will be the source of endless problems and conflicts.
Most Russian women who dream of marrying a foreigner have been to foreign countries, if at all, then as tourists or on a business trip, making short visits. Emigrants never tire of telling tourists: don’t judge a country by visiting it as a guest. You can judge a country and its people only by speaking its language and living in it for at least a year, interacting with its government institutions. To decide whether to leave, I advise dear readers not to give much weight to the opinions of people who once left for complete uncertainty, guided by the sole desire to get out of “this country.” Also, don’t listen to those who regularly vacation in their villa on the Mediterranean Sea. The carefree life of millionaires in a villa is not a threat to you. European aristocrats, bankers and capitalists do not bring their wives from Russia.
The worst thing is that your children will acquire new social instincts that are strikingly different from yours. No matter how hard you try, your children will be more like your husband, the children around you, your neighbor Ahlyam and your neighbor Ilvis. If you raise your child in isolation before school, if local legislation and wealth allows you to, on Russian books and cartoons, taking him to a Russian kindergarten, then he will get to school completely unprepared for local realities. And it will be very difficult for him to adapt to school. The child will begin to have problems with behavior, with school and with peers.
It is more likely that his first native language will be the language of his husband and the external environment, and the child will always know Russian worse. The social instincts instilled in your children in kindergarten, at school and in society will be very different from yours. “Who is he like?!” Certainly not you. The hardest thing will be for your own parents. There will be a gap between them and their grandchildren.
Chauvinism
A funny accent, ridiculous habits, tastes in food, way of dressing, different facial expressions, different logic, construction of phrases - you will always be different from the natives, you will always be a little worse people even for your husband, his parents and relatives, neighbors. You will notice it. Sometimes they will make fun of you, and if you are unlucky, they will insult you to your face. In humorous programs they will make fun of your Russian accent, and joke about Russian whores and your love for vodka. You will notice that you feel more comfortable interacting with other expats, even from India.
Even in tolerant Europe and even more tolerant North America, you will encounter chauvinism quite regularly. And you will also encounter prejudiced attitudes towards Russians in general and towards Russian women. We can only wish that such manifestations would not occur on the part of the future husband and his family.
Abroad you will find the same theft, crime, drunkenness, rudeness, drug addiction, bureaucracy, soulless officials, hypocrisy, chauvinism, denunciation, paternalism, interference in private life that you so diligently look for and find at home. The forms of expression of these phenomena will be different, with their own local flavor, but they will be present.
- Your reputation has made you so famous that it will be better for you to start life anew abroad, where your fame will not reach.
- You are a sincere follower of a religious movement and cannot lead a full-fledged spiritual and social life in Russia. Undoubtedly, it will be better for a convinced Pentecostal, Jew, Scientologist, or Protestant to live outside the Russian Federation.
- Ideological considerations: your unwavering commitment to an exotic idea and your commitment to certain ideals does not find understanding among the broad masses of Russians. Then you have a direct path to where you will be understood.
- You have no unshakable life principles, no transpersonal values for which you can fight, you don’t know the history of your family, you don’t care about the graves of your ancestors, you are ready to sacrifice culture and language, you don’t care about your own ethnocultural affiliation... You are an appendage, a cute dummy in which your parents , the school and teachers invested nothing except the desire for comfort and the desire to entrust one’s destiny into the hands of others.
- You are a unique specialist in your field, a high-level professional, and you cannot find any use for yourself in your homeland. Based on your occupation, you find yourself a groom from the same field of activity, and new horizons open up before you.
- One can add an immutable truth. For an emigrant, the most reliable path to success in a foreign land and mental well-being lies through complete assimilation. For a woman marrying a foreigner, this path becomes the only one, and at the same time unattainable for the majority. You can achieve peace of mind in a foreign country only by abandoning everything who you were before emigrating and what made up your “I”. You will have to give up language, culture, history, eating habits, childhood memories.