All of us, immigrant women, are tormented by the same question - which manufacturer should we support - domestic or foreign? Who is better - Spanish or Russian men? A personal dilemma reaches the level of Shakespearean drama - To be or not to be? And if there is to be and to choose, then how not to make a mistake? We need an independent, caring and reliable man, a good family man. We think not only about ourselves, but also about our future offspring. Therefore, when studying a man, we pay attention to everything - we ask, we are interested, we smell, we examine and closely scan him for suitability for starting a family. We carefully discuss everything said and lived with our mothers and friends. Every day we collect facts for analysis and read additional literature when we feel a lack of knowledge. The women's laboratory works without breaks on weekends and holidays. The ideal is being searched for there! Having immigrated to Spain, Russian ladies gain access to new material for comparison and possibly better selection. Who should you give preference to - ours or Spanish men? What is Spanish love like?

Independence

Our men mature earlier. And many run away from home when they are 16-19 and begin to do and accomplish some small but ambitious things. This cannot be said for everyone, but a good percentage of such fellows exist in the CIS. But no Spanish history is familiar with this. In Spain, men live with their mothers until they are 30, and as in that joke, all matters are resolved with one call - a call to mom. Again, not all, but many. Behind the Spanish pumped up superman there is often a sweet, kind supermom with her super connections and opportunities.

Masculinity

Our men drink and consider it a kind of sign of masculinity. They have a lot of stress from work and alcohol becomes a kind of relaxation and leisure activity on weekends. Spaniards only work during their free time. They drink little, prefer wine. Masculinity is emphasized rather by going to the gym, for which Russian men have no time.

Sex

Forbes magazine once recognized the Spaniards as the world's best lovers. By what criteria did they judge interestingly? Spaniards act more interested in friendship and friendly sex than in burning passion. They make an appointment for a week after all the family dinners have taken place. And they are still late or rescheduled. And in principle, we are not talking about a hot Spanish night. Therefore, it is more difficult to believe in the Spanish macho than in the legend of the Minotaur. Greece is at least far away, but the Spaniards are at every step. But Forbes dropped our brother somewhere very deeply, probably for the traditionality of poses and the domestic dislike of cunnilingus as a non-male activity.

Relationship with children

Spaniards are great dads! Sometimes they resemble hunchbacks of the sea, nurturing and educating their generation. Russian men - a lot of work, a lot of stress, little time, but the Russian dad can give you more money!

Starting a family

Apart from the parents and siblings of a Russian man, you will not recognize his family anymore. God grant that a relationship develops with his mother, and then you, by agreement, can guide the man in the right family-prosperous direction and fight the addiction to drink. Spanish families are similar to Greek ones. The Mediterranean version of the family includes cuñatas, godparents, great-uncles, and second cousins. And here you need to please everyone and coordinate your weekends and holidays with your busy family schedule of dinners and lunches. His mother will guide your family in the right family-prosperous direction in Spanish.

Not everything falls under statistics, and all these stories are just funny sketches! Don't judge harshly and keep searching with an open heart and great desire. Of the entire stream of men you meet on your road, you need only one - your own, dear, suitable only for you. And what difference does it make what language he speaks if you speak to him in the language of souls...

Hello!

I have been following your wonderful site since its opening. I’m very glad that it has become so popular with you and that you are doing such a noble cause. I am sending you a story about Spain. Please publish it, many girls have asked me. I hope you like it. If you want, include it in the newsletter, that would be great!

I recently married a Spaniard, live in Barcelona and am very happy. Previously lived in St. Petersburg. I am 26 years old. At the request of many girls, I express my opinion about this country and its inhabitants. Perhaps someone will disagree, but that is his right, I am writing my personal impressions.

From the point of view of Russian women, most Spanish men are quite handsome. They have dark hair, beautiful big eyes, regular facial features. This is not to say that they are very tall, but rather average. Men, even in adulthood, are beautiful, with such noble gray hair. They take great care of themselves, dress elegantly and tastefully.

Speaking about character and other qualities, I will talk about men over 30 years old, with average and high levels of education and income.

Spanish men are very attached to their family and children. They never abandon their children; even after a divorce, they are required by law to support them, and it seems that they do this with great pleasure. I saw how such divorced daddies take their children to Disneyland, Paris and America, not counting all the pleasures in Spain. In modern Spain, families usually have 1 child, and children are treated like kings; they are allowed a lot and are spoiled. Traditional husbands usually do not have affairs on the side, society extremely condemns such actions, and all this is in plain sight and it is very difficult to hide something, and they are faithful to their wives.

The attitude towards a woman is very respectful, a woman acquires a completely different value than in Russia. In modern Spain, women command, in one form or another. She used to be very depressed, but now it’s the other way around. Spanish women are loud, emancipated, there are beautiful and well-mannered women, but most are not so attractive and would lose greatly to the Russians. Almost all are brunettes, but some dye their hair. They dress and comb their hair rather untidy and unfeminine (95 percent wear only trousers, even in the heat), many smoke, talk loudly and non-stop (men are silent). Young people especially don’t care about clothes, and sometimes you see very strange outfits, for example, a girl in trousers and a knee-length skirt on top. I somehow don’t understand this and I can’t get used to it. During the daytime they hardly wear makeup. On the contrary, older and older women dress elegantly, do beautiful hairstyles, and take care of themselves.

Many Spanish men are disappointed in young Spanish women because they lose their femininity and want to compete with men in everything, and very often they are interested in career and money more than family and husband, and you cannot get tenderness, care and understanding from them. They are losing traditional family values. In modern families, usually both spouses work. The average age of marriage is 29 years for women and 30 years for men. Getting a Spaniard married is very difficult; many people prefer to live for years without registering their marriage. Divorce is not easy, costs money and takes at least 2 years. But if he decides to get married, he will definitely do it. In general, I heard about the optionality of the Spaniards, but I did not encounter this, and all promises were strictly fulfilled.

A little about the concepts of beauty. A woman whom no one paid attention to in Russia can be considered a beauty in Spain, and she will be reminded of this every day, with compliments, starting from the newspaper seller and neighbors, and ending with her husband’s parents. Blonde, fair-haired or with light eyes is already considered beautiful.

The standard of living is quite high, maybe average salaries are not as high as in northern Europe or the USA, but the price level is also different. Besides, average is average, and there are many people who earn much more than average and can afford to live just fine. In cities, Spaniards live in apartments, in villages and small towns - in their own houses. An apartment usually has more rooms than in Russia, but the rooms are small. Usually a large apartment has 2-3 bathrooms. Many apartments have large balconies or terraces (maybe even 100 meters long), where you can sunbathe, dine and relax, and even put a small swimming pool. There are flowers on the balconies. There are also buildings with private swimming pools. In most entrances there is a concierge; many residents know each other and greet each other. Many Spaniards have “second residences” - a house (apartment) in the countryside or in a village on the seashore, where they go on vacation.

Many people have servants in their houses and apartments (at least all my friends), and their services are inexpensive. As I understand, this is not typical in other European countries such as Germany or England, but here it is normal. My husband also won me over by telling me not to wash the dishes when I tried to do it, because I am not a maid, but a “senora,” and he tried to do everything himself (things like washing toilets, floors, ironing, dusting and other unpleasant work is performed by a visiting housekeeper).

There is a very large selection of quality products and they are cheap. These huge supermarkets, where there is so much of everything that at first you are in shock, you can’t choose which one from 300 varieties of cheese. Oranges and lemons are sold in bags of several kilograms. For example, they sell 5 different types of potatoes, one for boiling, another for frying, etc. In my opinion, they are all the same, just different varieties. Oranges too, right on the grids it is written which ones are for juice and which ones are for other needs. There are also small family shops, bakeries, greengrocers, perfume shops, etc. The same thing with clothes and shoes, everything is much cheaper than in Russia and everything is of excellent quality.

Spaniards travel a lot, both in Spain and abroad. Very many (at least in Madrid and Barcelona) have been to Russia, oddly enough.

People in Spain are friendly, calm, welcoming, because life here is smooth, there is no stress and such experiences as in Russia, which embitter people and make them constantly nervous and dissatisfied.

The nature and ecology are wonderful, it is almost always warm and the sun is shining. I really like that this country has an ancient history and culture, and there are all sorts of historical places at every step. But again, no better than the sights of St. Petersburg, for example. But they take much better care of their history and culture, all the houses are restored and looked after. But, again, it’s probably easier because of the climate.

Also, if anyone has specific questions about Spain and the Spaniards, write, if I can, I will write more for this site.
Roxana

The Spaniards - how much we have heard about them! Hot macho, temperamental ladies have become the talk of the town. But what are gender relations really like in this country?

You can often notice that a prominent Spanish man is next to an outwardly quite ordinary woman. Perhaps this may surprise some, since local representatives of the stronger sex are really noticeable and attractive. For the most part, they can boast of regular facial features and a good figure, although they cannot be called tall. Perhaps the key to understanding this phenomenon lies in the fact that the Spaniards know how to make every lady feel like the embodiment of beauty. Well, how could it be otherwise if, according to these seniors, unattractive women simply do not exist? In addition, unlike the Italians, the Spaniards are more smiling and friendly, which also attracts ladies. True, with age, such a smiling “man of dreams” can significantly deteriorate in character.

However, the chosen ones themselves often play a significant role in such damage, testing the nerves of their admirer with enviable tenacity. They are not in a hurry to get married, enjoying freedom to the fullest and thereby forcing their soulmate to be on guard. And God forbid you harass someone - a false report of rape to the police may well be the result of persistent persistence. And this despite the fact that just a couple of decades ago, a Spanish woman could not take any serious step without the permission of her father or husband.

As you can see, Spanish women are quite eccentric, even if they do not have stunning appearance. This was largely a consequence of emancipation. It led to the fact that even if a lady gets into trouble, a man may quite sincerely consider that his intervention is inappropriate. What a housewife is is also not entirely clear in this country. But at the same time, Spanish husbands readily help their significant other with household chores and raising children. Perhaps the unpopularity of such an activity as a housewife in this country is due to the fact that the stronger half is more interested in those women who can somehow express themselves, reveal their personal qualities in some activity.

How do the residents of the sunny country take care? Romance is their second “I”. Men try their best to ensure that every minute of the date is not wasted and is remembered for a long time. A woman will certainly feel like the center of attention, an exceptional person. Gallantry and good manners, of course, are not found among 100% of Spaniards, but many of them are delighted to discover the fair sex. Dating attributes such as flowers and gifts also have their place, but at the present time you shouldn’t count on long-term gifting of them. The fact is that Spanish women do not really like long-term courtship.

How will the gentleman appear on a date? The appearance will most likely be magnificent, since Spanish men have good taste in choosing clothes and accessories. However, in this country it is not difficult to make such a choice, since the clothes here are made of very high quality and are available to almost everyone. It's not uncommon to find metrosexuals among Spaniards. But you should be prepared for the fact that a tastefully dressed gentleman will appear quite late. Which, however, our ladies would consider indecent, but Spanish women will not pay attention to such things. And is it any wonder if punctuality, in principle, is not a value in this nation? Like promises of something, a Spaniard will take his word back just as easily as he gives it.

Therefore, the easiest thing is to react with condescension to the ardent promises of the gentleman, which local women have long understood. If anyone approaches a woman with obscene proposals, it will most likely be a Basque man. It can be identified by some similarity in behavior with Georgians. Basically, the Spaniard’s communication with his chosen one will be refined and delivering aesthetic pleasure. For example, they are unlikely to call her by her name, replacing it with beautiful epithets.

It is unlikely that anyone will find it a revelation to know that Spaniards are passionate people. They quickly fall in love, surrender to the feeling selflessly and with inevitable flashes of jealousy. However, a partner should always be prepared for the fact that such emotions can fade away as abruptly as they arise. Local residents are accustomed to this state of affairs, but our compatriots are not always able to get along with a Spaniard due to differences in mentality.

Oh hot Spanish men!! How many articles and comments can you find on the Internet on the topic of Spanish temperament?! How many myths exist about their hotness!

In my spare time, I decided to read what they write about Spanish men on the Internet and I was so surprised by what I read that I could not restrain myself and decided to write this article, so to speak, to reveal the truth about what Spanish men really are like. In most articles you will find information opposite to mine. Whom to believe and who to listen to is up to you. As far as I understood, the articles I read were written by tourists. And, as I already said in one of my articles, tourists will never form the right opinion about the country and the people in it if during their vacation they chose to visit the sights of the city or lie on the beach 2 meters from their 4-star hotel, instead to wander around the outskirts of the city and visit the local bars there. You need to live in a country to get to know it. In general, I’m telling you.

PS: The article is called “Spanish men”, but I will still talk more about the Valencians. According to the results of my survey of girls who visited different cities of the country, they find Valencians less attractive, muscular and well-groomed. I won’t judge whether this is true or not, I just told you what they answered me.

So, girls, it's time to find out the truth and come down to earth.

OPINION 1. Spanish men are tall, handsome and muscular.

Reality: Dear ladies, where did you get this from? From TV? From the Internet? From newspapers and magazines? Here's a photo from the cover of the article - do you really think that the Spaniards are like that?? You understand that all of the above is the media, and their task is to attract your attention, and not to tell the truth. Before my first visit to Spain, I also believed that Spanish macho men would conquer me at first sight. I have to disappoint you, girls. For the most part, Spaniards are not at all attractive, sometimes even too attractive. Of course, everyone has different tastes and there is no arguing about them, but ordinary Spanish men, so to speak, “from the street,” have nothing in common with the muscular handsome men from the cover.

First of all, they are very short, on average 170-175cm. For the most part, they have an ordinary physique, sometimes with a “beer belly” (although, it must be admitted, Russian men are leaders in this regard), not always attractive facial features and their appearance leaves much to be desired. They have dark eyes and black hair - that's true. But this is not always enough for beauty. It seems that due to the genetic characteristics of the nation, men's hair in some parts of Spain begins to fall out quite early, and many already have a shiny bald spot on the top of their heads by the age of 30-35 (there is usually hair on the sides). It suits some people, it doesn't suit others. With all the listed qualities, the Spaniards consider themselves tall, muscular, handsome men. ;)) There are tons of such “beauties” in Valencia.

Now many of you will shout that I am wrong and that Spanish men take care of themselves and dress to the nines. Well what can I say. Firstly, it depends on the city. Madrid and Barcelona are popular cities and, of course, men there, and people in general, dress at a higher level (although, to be honest, I didn’t notice this). Secondly, I say again, there is no need to compare a dozen Spanish men in a resort area on the “hunt” for easy prey – a “tourist” – with the general mass of Spanish men living in the country. This article is about Spanish men in general, and not about a bunch of macho men who sit on the beach for hours, looking for “prey”, and spend the rest of the time in boutiques, beauty salons and the gym. You will find such “goodness” in every country. However, they do not characterize all men in the country.

Conclusion: If I had come here for permanent residence, I think I would not have been able to find a life partner here. And the question is not only in appearance, but also in mentality and culture.

OPINION 2. Spanish men know how to care for women.

Reality: MYTH to all myths - the most terrible misconception of all! This is NOT TRUE, girls. Compared to Russians, Spaniards have no idea how to care for a woman. Again, we are not talking about a bunch of “beach and club hunters”, we are talking about ordinary average Spanish men. To be convinced of my words, it is not enough to have a holiday romance with a Spaniard, you need to live here. At the resort, all the men are good and gallant, and all the girls are doubly sensitive to the slightest manifestation of attention. However, if we dig deeper and talk about serious courtship to create a long-term relationship, then it will be revealed in all its glory - the Spanish art of courtship...

• If a Spanish “macho” starts courting you, you can immediately forget about the existence of flowers, sweets, etc. The Spaniards DO NOT GIVE FLOWERS, as well as gifts in general. Apparently, this is not very accepted in the country. Of course, there are some men - mostly of the older generation - who give flowers, but this is an exception to the rule. They may still fork out money for a gift, but often you’d rather not receive it than not know where to put “it” - it seems like you can’t throw it away - they’ll be offended, and you don’t want to have “it” at home either.
• Their complements are poor. Yes, they do them, but they don’t use much ingenuity. For a holiday romance, they will say something to you, but if you need to give a serious compliment, there is no way.
• Forget about being required by etiquette to open a car or restaurant door. Forget about the fact that you, as a lady, must enter the room first. A Spanish man will treat you as if he were his own kind, i.e. like with a man. Don't expect him to help you, for example, carry things. He thinks like this: “Let her carry her things herself. I'm not her porter. I AM A MAN". Again, this does not apply 100% to all men. This is a general rule. Next come deviations, exceptions, “retrained” and “tamed”…. My husband, for example, has been retrained and “taught” the rules of behavior in Russian women’s society. When we first met, his behavior was exactly as I described above. For example, the first time at the airport, when he came to meet me, he did not help me carry my suitcase and bags, saying that the things were mine and I should carry them. Didn’t let you pass ahead when entering the room, didn’t open the door of the room, didn’t give flowers. It was difficult to explain to him that these actions are not a sign of male slavery and disrespect for the male sex. They are normal (by Russian standards) behavior of a well-mannered, gallant man. Now it does everything as expected, but it took me a while. :)))

Once there was a case: my husband and I met relatives at the airport - two young girls. It turned out funny. When we met them, the girls automatically handed over all the suitcases to the only man who was with us, i.e. to my husband, and then we all went out together, joyful from the meeting. At home, my husband told me everything he thought about Russian customs. He said that he felt insulted because... They hung all his things on him, like on a slave. That such behavior is unacceptable and stuff like that. Interesting point of view for me... He was offended by this instead of feeling like a man. Now I make sure that this does not happen again and that he does not feel uncomfortable.Although, today, he doesn’t need to say anything, he automatically takes suitcases from all the ladies without talking. Of course, I help him.

Conclusion: Do you like the Spaniard? We will have to teach him manners of behavior and courtship. If the relationship is serious, he will go for it. If not, you don't need it.

OPINION 3. Spanish men are generous

Reality: Ha! Ha! Ha! In my opinion, it is no secret that all Europeans are not very generous people. The Spaniards are no exception. The problem, in my opinion, is not so much in stinginess as in culture - they do not have the habit of giving flowers, gifts, even, for the most part, on birthdays, not to mention gifts as a sign of attention. In terms of gifts, everything is very difficult - either they are not given, or they are given, well, it would be better not to give them. Thus, when going on a date with a Spaniard or expecting him to visit, do not expect the standard set - flowers, champagne, sweets. Eh... how I missed this banal, but, as it turned out, such a desirable set....

Conclusion: It's hard at first, but then you get used to it...

OPINION 4. Spanish men are hot men

Reality: It depends on what you mean by ardor. Emotionality? Yes. They can yell at you throughout the street, gesticulating. Explosive character? Basically, yes. Although it depends on the person. Loudness and hysteria? Yes too. Hotness in bed? Well, I don’t really have anything to compare it with, because... I'm married. ;)) I can’t write about other men, as you understand - he can read it and translate it with a dictionary. :)) Joke. Indeed, I cannot compare with other Spaniards, because... in my life there was and is only one Spaniard.

In order to make such a comparison, you need to have a lot of “experience” in such communication, and with other nations too. Many ladies draw conclusions about the hotness of the Spaniards after a 3-day holiday romance with one of them. We all get hot on a hot beach during a holiday romance, when we know that it’s only sex and that it’s for a couple of days. I can say (I conducted a survey of my Russian female friends and summarized the information, combining it with my experience) that the Spaniards are really “more active” than the Russians. Their testosterone levels are higher, which, of course, affects sexual activity. To say that they are really hot... You can say this about young people who are not interested in anything other than sex (due to their age). Over the years, everything falls into place and men calm down, although, as I said, even after calming down, the Spaniards are more active than the Russians.

Conclusion: Spaniards are hot only with foreign women and last them for a couple of days. In ordinary family life they are different.

OPINION 5. Spanish men are reliable life partners.

Reality: Why the Spaniards? In any nation there are reliable ones and there are “hopeless” ones. To think that your life with a Spaniard will be perfect and you won’t worry about anything is complete nonsense. Life with a Spaniard is the same as with any other person - in sorrow and joy, with ups and downs, quarrels and reconciliations. Before being Spaniards, they are, first of all, men, people. With emotions, character, desires, shortcomings, weaknesses, problems, mood swings. You can find a reliable life partner anywhere - in Africa, in Russia or in some Tmutarakan.

As for male fidelity in Spain, then, as elsewhere, there are all kinds. I would say that the percentage of unfaithful men here is considerable. This is understandable, firstly, Spain is a resort country, where countless young foreign women eager for adventure arrive every day. And this always arouses interest in everyone. Secondly, women in Spain are not only not very active sexually, they are also extremely conservative and unattractive (they do not know how and do not like to seduce), which also pushes men to satisfy their desires on the side. Well, thirdly, do not forget that Spanish men consider themselves tall, handsome men with impressive sizes of all parts of the body (their sizes are different). Who dares to refuse such people!? Among the men I met while living in Valencia, I came across more often than not those who were unfaithful. Moreover, they considered this lifestyle - having a wife/fiancée/companion and periodically having fun with another woman - quite normal, they spoke about it calmly, and even with pride. Such “good” can be found in any country, so I’m not generalizing.

Conclusion: Trust but check. And the man, too. Spanish even more so. From the point of view of infidelity, they are the same as anywhere else, but with an inflated sense of self-esteem.

OPINION 6. Spanish men are very impressionable and sensitive.

Reality: This is true. :)))) In my opinion, they are too sensitive. Not every woman is ready to endure tears and nagging, men especially if the relationship is just starting. Of course, it is good to know that a man is sensitive, however, sometimes this impressionability goes beyond boundaries and manifests itself in cases in which a woman would not be so impressed. Sensitive often provokes hysterics - screaming, noise, snot, tears. So, if a person is dear to you, you need to understand him; if not, let him look for another “pillow”.

Conclusion: Not everyone likes sensitive men. Although, when a man is a loved one, you will understand and forgive everything. :))

OPINION 7. Spanish men are jealous

Reality: I do not know what to say. In principle, this is true. Although among my friends there are absolutely non-jealous men. Here they are more like Caucasians. However, I would say that this jealousy is not the fruit of great love for a woman, but the fruit of inflated male pride, like “This is mine - don’t touch it!”

Conclusion: Like everywhere else, Spanish men are different, but there are enough jealous people and jealousy is more pronounced than in Russia.

OPINION 8. Spanish men are good fathers and love children very much*.

Reality: Mmm…. I think this is true, although to compare, you have to raise a child with a Spaniard and a Russian. I don't have such experience. However, it should be noted that I see Spanish men much more often on the street with strollers and children. Of course, I won’t say that they love them more than Russian men, but perhaps they really pay more attention to them. Maybe I'm wrong, but I assume that this situation may be due to the fact that Spaniards work less or many do not work at all. Accordingly, instead of wives, they sit with children.

Conclusion: Yes, Spanish men spend a lot of time with children, in my opinion, more than in the Russian Federation.

This is what Spanish men are like!

* Item added 01/13/2017

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And romance? Do you want understanding, but have no one to talk to? Married to a Spaniard you will get a man head over heels in love, passionate looks and kisses, a helper around the house and more of a family feast. An ideal way to learn to simply enjoy life and not rush anywhere.

It is customary to adore mothers and obey them in everything, and to pamper children and allow them a lot, without denying them anything.

How does a Spaniard look after you?

They can often allow themselves to show up for a date late and not apologize, because they are simply not used to rushing somewhere and doing everything on time.

On one of the Spanish dating sites, the questionnaire even includes a question about whether a girl will wait more than 30 minutes for a guy on the first date. Answer: “No, I won’t,” the Spaniards may sincerely not understand and even be offended.

Inconstancy is also a characteristic feature of these handsome dark men. Spaniards can easily change their minds, give and take away words.

They are confident that life is created for their pleasure and will not do anything that could prevent them from enjoying life. In addition, Spaniards make most promises under the influence of strong emotions, which pass over time.

Spanish husband and Spanish wife - who is in charge?

Although the Spaniards love children very much, they are in no hurry to start their own families. Early marriages and especially early children are not common in Spain.

Even for women, getting married before the age of 30 is considered reckless and unreasonable. Family is too responsible a matter for which you need to be prepared both financially and psychologically.

Spaniards can date their future wife for years, while introducing her to everyone as their friend. And only acquaintance with numerous relatives indicates the seriousness of intentions.

In a Spanish family, the husband idolizes a woman and treats his wife as a mother and a shrine.

Most often, Spanish women are engaged in their careers before marriage, and after the birth of children they no longer return to work, devoting themselves entirely to household chores. Despite everything, Spanish women remain very independent and self-sufficient.

On the one hand, men like this independence, but on the other hand, they would like more tenderness and more often feel like the boss in the house.

Spaniards are sensitive and caring fathers.